Yesterday V. invited me over for dinner. She wanted to talk over some important stuff. We enjoyed a very amicable dinner with lots of laughs. Then things got serious. She addressed two things which we worked out, not without some difficulty, but I think we're both adept at handling difficult conversations with honesty.
At the end of our conversation she asked me to put my forearms on top of hers, as she carried the weight of my arms. She said "I don't want to do this". Then she instructed me to turn my forearms so that I would carry the weight of her arms, and she said "I don't want this either". The then alternated the rotation of her forearms so that her left arm would be carrying my right arm, and her right arm rested on my left. "This is what I want", she said.
"No, we're doing it wrong", I said. "What do you mean?" she asked. I switched the rotation of her arms, so that my right arm would carry her left arm, and her right arm would carry my left arm. I said "We both have strengths and weaknesses, we must do this in such a way that we complement each other".
And that was enough so that we understood what we needed from each other.