Yesterday I spent the evening with my cousin and his fiancé. We went to the fiestas de barrio de San Cayetano, which are neighborhood festivities with lots of music and drinks on the street. Then we had dinner at an Indian restaurant.
Sometimes I debate whether to write about certain things, especially regarding other people. I also feel it's important that we register our intuitions, so that we may confirm them later. All sorts of feelings and sensations come through us, and we confirm our bias when we claim that we knew all along when in reality this was one of many thoughts that crossed your mind.
I'll write it out: I feel my cousin is more in love with her than she is with him. She rationally knows my cousin is a good catch (he's a good, stable and kind guy), but she feels she hasn't lived enough to get married yet. There's a good chance they will call off the wedding (in March 2026). If they do, it's likely they won't last more than five years married.
They've been dating for one year. He would probably be better off dating for another three years (until she's thirty).
Perhaps I shouldn't keep this to myself, and at the same time I notice these are intuitions tainted by my own aversive personality. Off-hand comments such as "I only had one serious relationship before [my cousin]. I wished I had kissed more frogs before finding him" cause a bigger impression on me than on other people.
It's all small details, nothing substantial which lead me to feel like this. They've left for Paris already, but as I write this I feel I should have casually asked why are they un such a rush for getting married, they have many years before their biological clock starts ticking.
My cousin will come back alone for business in September. By then I hope to know exactly what to say to him.